Tuesday, December 21, 2010

My Seester

My sister, my most wonderful seester, who I loved so much, died this morning at 10:30am, with me holding one hand, stroking her head, and my sister in law holding her other.

It's a long story, as everything with my sister always was. I am exhausted an cannot tell it now.

Just know, because it makes my heart calm, that she was not alone.

29 Comments:

Blogger Prophecy said...

You dont know me, and i dont know you, but i am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts from blogger in Denmark, reading your blog.

1:24 PM  
Blogger N said...

I'm so sorry. And so thankful that you were there. Sending much love and peace your way.

1:33 PM  
Anonymous Lia said...

Another internet stranger lady here, one sister to another, wishing you peace and support in your grief.

1:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sara,

I am so sorry about your sister. I know how much you cared for her. Today is the one-year anniversary of my mother's passing, so I join you in grieving for those we've loved.

Lots of love your way.

Marc Solomon

2:13 PM  
Anonymous donald said...

when i got your email about cathy, i sat down and cried. i only knew her for a few years, but enjoyed every minute i got to spend with her. and god only knows why she wanted to marry me!!!

i am so glad you were there with her, and know she was happy to have you both there holding her hands. her spirit will be with you forever!

sending all the love i can your way.

2:54 PM  
Anonymous ccoyle said...

Another stranger friend here..I am so sorry for your loss. Sending love and light your way.

2:58 PM  
Blogger Sue J said...

Oh Sara, I am so sorry.

I know your grief must seem unbearable right now, but I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that you made your sister's life so full of joy at such a difficult time by bringing her up to your home and bringing her into your wonderful family.

Sending hugs from our home to yours ...

3:27 PM  
Blogger Ms. Moon said...

Oh Sara. I am so very, very sad to hear this but I am so very, very glad you were there with her when she crossed over.
I can't even begin to know how much you will miss her. You have been a wonderful sister to your seester. May she truly be at peace now and may you and your family find some of that peace, too.
Love...Mary

4:35 PM  
Blogger Suzy said...

I am glad you were able to be there with her at the end. Let me know anything you need I'm not far.
love you hugs to the boys.

5:02 PM  
Blogger A. said...

I'm so sorry...

6:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Another stranger friend from Austin. I've been reading your blog for a couple of years and have loved your frankness and honesty, especially about the relationship with your family. I'm so sorry your sister is gone. I know how much that relationship meant to you. It was quite a gift.

Peace, Marianne

7:24 PM  
Anonymous Melissa said...

I am so sorry. She was an amazing woman. She was one of the best friends I have ever had. I am so glad you were there with her, I am sure it meant a lot to her. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

7:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am very very sorry for your family's loss. The few times I met her, she was such fun. And I know this has been a struggle. I will not be here for the service but I will be there in spirit.

9:14 PM  
Anonymous Jeffrey said...

I hit the wrong button...anonymous is me, Jeffrey.

9:15 PM  
Blogger Sara said...

bbq, pulled pork, ribs, cole slaw, greens, and chocolate- all kinds of chocolate. country music, harley davidsons, laughter, more chocolate, and maybe a little more chocolate.

I'm going to throw my sister a party.

her harley piled with flowers, and arnold palmers- half tea, half lemonade. oh, how she loved those.

that's my sister.

I'm doing that. and a minister. my sister was about god. zachary said he wants to speak. he will.

and we'll dance.

I'm going to celebrate my sister's life. as it was. my brother can "honor" my father. but then... he never knew her.

that's why he cried so much today. he never knew her.

but I did.

10:43 PM  
Anonymous donald said...

i look forward to that celebration, just how cathy would have wanted it!

8:30 AM  
Blogger Sara said...

the boys are getting very excited about how to celebrate their favorite aunt cathy. each have an idea. we'll make room for it all.

10:17 AM  
Blogger Married Lesbian Mom said...

You and your wonderful family are in my heart & prayers. I am glad you were there to have that moment with her. I am sending you positive warm healing vibes.

9:13 PM  
Blogger Denita said...

I'm so sorry. I know we've never met, but I know from your writing how very much she meant to you. And I know that her spirit will always be alive in your boys.

11:32 PM  
Anonymous Karen Ocamb said...

Sara - My deepest sympathies. Thank you for your shared devotion - and example of how we should treat one another, with kindness and compassion, since we're all seesters in the end.

My thoughts are with you and your family.
Karen Ocamb

10:44 AM  
Anonymous Morgan said...

My thoughts are with you, wishing you peace in the loss and joy in the celebration of such a wonderful life Cathy shared with many.

11:53 AM  
Blogger RSS said...

Sara my sympathy and thoughts are with you. There is no bond like that of sisters-- I understand your loss.
fondly,
roberta

12:04 PM  
Blogger Sean said...

Sara, you and your family are in our thoughts this holiday weekend. I am so sorry for your loss.

12:10 PM  
Anonymous Bob Witeck said...

Sara, though we've not met, I truly know a sister's loss too, and feel the longing you have. Just sending you love, support and faith to hold her memory and life close to you always.

12:20 PM  
Anonymous CathyRenna said...

Sara - you will be in leah and my thoughts and prayers, we are so sorry for your loss

4:38 PM  
Blogger Robyn said...

Sara, I just heard the news about your sister. Just want you to know that you're in my thoughts and I am sending you love from Jamaica Plain.
--Robyn Ochs

6:03 PM  
Anonymous Lin said...

Sara,I'm so sorry. I have followed your sister's story on Bilerico and know what a long, difficult road this has been. I'm glad you were there and glad to know she has found peace.

10:08 AM  
Blogger weese said...

peace peace peace
holding you and all the family in my heart.

9:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i haven't checked in ages. i'm sorry to hear about your loss. you're in my thoughts.

4:36 PM  

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